If an act is simple, then you begin to realize its precision. One begins to realize the whatever we do in everyday life is beautiful and meaningful.
The process of communication can be beautiful, if we see it in terms of simplicity and precision. Every pause made in the process of speaking becomes a kind of punctuation. Speak, allow space, speak, allow space. It does not have to be a formal and solemn occasion necessarily, but it is beautiful that you are not rushing, that you are not talking at tremendous speed, raucously. We do not have to churn our information and then stop suddenly with a feeling of lit-down in order to get a response from the other person. We could do things in a dignified and proper way. Just allow space. Space is as important in communicating to another person as talking.
... One should be completely satisfied with whatever situation arises and not look for entertainment from an external source. Generally, when we speak, we do not simply want to communicate to the other person, but we want a response as well. We want to be fed by the other person, but we want a response as well. We want to be fed by the other person, which is a very egocentric way of communicating. We have to give up this desire to be fed, and then the gap automatically comes. We cannot produce the gap through effort.
... There is a story concerning the Buddha which relates how he taught a village woman to develop such mindfulness in the act of drawing water from a well. He taught her to be aware of the precise movement of her hands and arms as she drew up the water. Such practice is the attempt to see the nowness quality in action, which is why it is know as "shamatha," the development of peace. When you see the nowness of the very moment, there is no room for anything but openness and peace.
We must simplify rather than complicate the problem with theories of any kind. The situation of nowness, this very moment, contains whole case histories and future determinations. Everything is right here, so we do not have to go any further than this to prove who we were or are or might be. As soon as we try to unravel the past, then we are involved with ambition and struggle in the present, not being able to accept the present moment as is. It is very cowardly. Moreover, it unhealthy to regard our therapist or guru as our savior. We must work on ourselves. There is really no other alternative. The spiritual friend might accentuate our pain in certain circumstances. That is part of the physician-patient relationship. The idea is not to regard the spiritual path as something very luxurious and pleasurable but to see it as just facing the facts of life.
Chogyam Trungpa - Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism
A similar paradox is encountered when we think of "altering" our awareness in order to "achieve" unitive experience. If being at one is the way things truly are, then when we think we are separate our awareness is already altered. The realization of unity does not constitute an alteration of awareness. Instead, it is a matter of stopping its alteration. . . . This may sound like semantic play, but the difference is very important. Unitive experiences are associated not with doing anything extra to one's self, but with doing less. They come not with the addition of something, but with subtraction.
Gerald May - Care of Mind Care of Spirit